A Special Flavor - Taking My Own Advice

A year or so ago I shared on Facebook a sweet conversation with Rae that I cherished. I want to share it here so that it's preserved and serves as a reminder to myself and hopefully it can help someone else. It went something like this..

Rae: 'Mom, why doesn't everyone like me? There is a girl as school that is so popular. Everyone likes her. Not everyone likes me.'

Me: 'What does everyone like about her?'

Rae: 'She can run fast, do the splits and she has shiny hair.'

Me: 'Well... (after holding my giggles about the above comment) Rae, it's like ice cream. Some people are vanilla. Everyone likes them. They blend with every flavor they are paired with. They are nice and no one hates vanilla ice cream. But some of us are rocky road.'

Rae: 'I LOVE rocky road!'

Me: 'Me too! But not everyone likes rocky road. But the people that like it.. well they LOVE it! It's probably their favorite flavor of ice cream.'

Rae: 'Hmm...'

Me: 'You and I darling, are rocky road. Not everyone will just like you.. but those that do will be madly in LOVE with you.

Rae: 'I am pretty sure your mint chocolate chip'

Me: 'I think your right.. and I am happy to not just be vanilla.'

Rae: 'Me too!'

I felt at the time like I had earned some momma brownie points with my quick on my feet answer. Well since that proud momma moment I have realized that maybe I am the in need of the advice more then Rae has ever been.

We all get criticized, we all have people that do not prefer our type of personality, our outlook on the world or maybe they just don't like our face. I have been struggling with feeling down on myself because not everyone likes me, not everyone wants to be around all this mintiness. I have a strong personality. I may be too honest. But I also know that I would do anything to help someone and that my heart is usually in the right place. I also know I can't pretend to be a vanilla. I can't change my personality. Frankly, I am just too opinionated and a little too excitable to be a vanilla.

Lately I find myself repeating in my head 'Just be your crazy chocolate chip self, the right people will LOVE you.' and now I will add 'Don't stay where you are tolerated. Go where you are celebrated!' my list of mantras.  

Here's to the rocky roads, mint chocolate chips and the pistachios of the world. May you find the people that LOVE you for all those things that make you unique and think your the best flavor on earth!

So.. what flavor are you?

LOVE,

 Nikki

Gleeful Peacock Fall Coupon 2012

All of the new creations from Gleeful Peacock are up and ready to be adopted! To celebrate we are offering a 20% discount on all items.. even the ones you might have been eying for a while.

We have new charm bracelets, cuff bracelets, earrings and necklaces. Even the awesome Oklahoma necklaces are up now!

Hope you are enjoying the lovely fall weather and getting ready for all your handmade gift giving!

Nikki

Second time is even grander. Going to Market again.

I just completed my second Market and it was exhausting, a blast, educational and super emotional. Last go round I was in the Vintage and Handmade section. This time I was in the mix of it all. It was great to feel like my little 'ol business was next to business that spend tens of thousands for Market. A little intimidating, of course.. but it was super exciting! 

So with all these amazing businesses surrounding me, I was astonished to win Best Booth, again! That's right folks.. my booth full of re-purposed items as displays took home the prize. I am still in shock and so incredibly excited!

booth from straight on

Bringing the yellow couch seemed super extreme at the time.. especially when we where lugging it into the freight elevator. But if there was a an award for the most comfortable vendor, I would take that prize as well. Four long days at the show makes it totally worth it!

My goal was not only to display but to share some ideas with buyers on how they could display my work. I encourage picture taking and it seemed to be something the buyers really appreciated. These are the ways I came up with to display headbands. They truely are the peskiest things to display.

Headband Displays for Shows and Shops

This go round we had the new (and awesome if I do say so myself) charm bracelets. I displayed them on an old plant stand. Painted turquoise.. of course.

Colorful Charm Bracelets

my version of advertising

Now I have to admit.. it was great winning best booth two times in a row. But I hang up my hat. I am going to work on a paired down display for future shows. One that preferably does not make me rent a moving truck to transport. It was super gratifying and I fell like it was all I wanted it to be, but next go round I am simplifying. Since my goal is to do Atlanta , Vegas and New York Markets, I need to humble the displays a bit so they can be crated and shipped.

Ahh... but I had one show that it was just as it was in my head. One show that I did not comprise one little bit and my artistic soul was allowed to play freely and be crazy. A big thanks to the moving tuck, paint, a willing husband and a assistant that kept telling me I was not crazy for wanting a couch in my booth.

Now back to life and getting my orders out.

<3 Nikki

Use the dang quilt! Celebrating my momma

A year ago today I sat in complete silence, stunned and trying to figure out just what living my life without my momma in it would be. How would I go on? Who would I talk to everyday? Who would tell me I could do it all and be my biggest fan? Who's advice would I pretend to ignore and then secret implement it?

I have been dreading this day all year. Knowing I had to face it sooner or later. It haunted me. I have already made it through her birthday (just 2 weeks after she passed), my birthday, every major holiday and Mothers Day without her. This was the last big one. Or at least that is what I tell myself to make it through.

But today I decided to celebrate life instead of focusing on her death. I am still here and I can still partake all of the joys she can no longer experience. She first and foremost wanted to teach me how to have joy and love life. So here is what I did to make her proud.

I Spent some time working on my big dreams. She was so proud of my business, my work ethic and
that I could make a living at doing something I loved. I worked on finalizing some displays for Market. She was usually my sounding board the one I would discuss every last detail with. She would have loved being involved in all of this!

I found a few more of her wooden spools and I added to my collection I have of hers. She was an amazing seamstress and keeping her spools where I can see them make me feel close to her.

Then it was time for a little fun. We went to dinner at The Olive Garden. Mom... I know you loved this place, but next year we are finding a different restaurant to celebrate you!  The food was bad, but we laughed about how Mom always swiped the cutlery. She only needed to go to Outback Steakhouse one more time of have a whole set. I blame this on my step dad influence.See the billiard balls in the spool photo? Those were my dads. He never had a pool table. So I am assuming he swiped those each time he went to play with friends. Oh mom and dad.. you were funny and quirky.

Some mini golf with the family and the first real snow cone of the season was perfect for this day.Time with family was what she asked for every holiday and what she loved the most.

Then there is the quilt. 

My mom made this for me when I was 15. I cried when I got it. There are pieces that are less then a square inch! She stayed up late for months after I went to bed to surprise me with this. She was so proud when she gave it to me and I can still see the look on her face in that moment.

I quickly put it in my cedar chest where it has sat for 17 years. She always gave me crap about keeping it in the chest. I told her I didn't want to ruin it. As I got older she bugged me to use it again. I still did not want to ruin it.. and it did not exactly go with my color scheme. She laughed and told me there was no point in a quilt sitting in a chest.

Well tonight I took it out and I will sleep with it. Knowing her hands made this with so much love will be so comforting. Living in the moment today, loving my life and using the quilt will be my way of telling her she taught me well.

I get it mom. Life is short. Chase your dreams, know what matters and use the dang quilt.

xoxo
Nikki

Random facts about me and my journey

Me.. Nikki Halgren, AKA the Gleeful Peacock

Hello! I thought it was long overdue to share a few facts about myself. I think that sometimes knowing a little more about the person behind that blog, business, or product lets you see the point of view that it all stems from. So.. here is a little bit about myself. Maybe even more then you ever cared to know.

• Born and raised in Utah. 
• My earliest memories are watching my mom making, sewing or creating. She was crafty long before crafty was cool. I come from a long line of crafty, creative and extremely hard working women. I try to live up to that legacy on a daily basis.
• My mom was an amazing seamstress. She made gorgeous wedding dresses, quilts and all of my clothing. 
• I hate to sew because of the reason above.  I knew I would never be able to get to her level.
• Moved to Tulsa a little over 5 years ago, so that my husband could attend Law School. He was a lawyer for a year.. and is now a cop. More on this later.
• Married for almost 13 years. Marriage is dang hard work and being able to say this is a huge accomplishment for me.
• I have a desire to seek out vintage, colorful and happy things. To surround myself with them in life is one of my missions. 
• My dear husband lets me decorate anyway I want. So.. I do have a turquoise table and a yellow couch in my house. 
• I collect frames, tea cups, succulents, and anything that makes my granny aged spirit happy.  I am trying not to collect furniture.. but it at times is a loosing battle.
• I have a 10 year old daughter who is kooky, silly and scary smart. She challenges me on a daily bases in every aspect of my life. 
• I had a tumor the size of a football when I was pregnant with my daughter. No one ever thought that either of us would make it. I have many scares to show for it, but I also have a amazingly brilliant daughter as well.
• Rae has a tick disorder. She has amazing grace and confidence when dealing with it. She loves herself and knows she is beautiful, smart, strong and just happens to also have ticks. This is my greatest of all accomplishments.
• I adore turquoise. I have to tell myself to stop working it. Second color love is yellow. I have to force myself to work with purple and pinks. Although I do love coral.. 
• I have been every size from a a size 22 in women's to a 10. I usually float around a 14.. but it is a constant battle. My love of food and my desire to create all time can make this difficult. I am however working on body love. I am determined to love and accept my body.. scares, stretch marks, weight issues and all. 
• I love to set goals, challenge myself and compete. I am super competitive with myself. This can be a downfall. 
• I hate following trends. Always have.. always will. 
• People think I am super social. I am in fact a homebody. The older I get the more I want to just stay home. I have to force myself to go out to events and parties. Since loosing my parents this has been even more of a issue. When I get stressed it is the worse. Working on this area of my life. 
• I love unicorns and narwhals.
• I invent holidays. There are just not enough of them in my opinion.
• I always knew I was supposed to have my own business. But it scared me to pieces to admit it or pursue it. Then one day I knew it was time. It has been the most rewarding and challenging journey of my life.
• Right now I am wondering why I am writing this and who wants to read about it.. but I will hit publish anyway and just let you read it if you wish.

Love, 

Nikki

Harry Potter Birthday Party - Epic Level Achieved!

Harry Potter has been an obsession of Rae's for the last year. I have to admit I never read the books, but when she started reading them and showing all signs on obsession, Mik and I agreed that we could either be participants or mere spectators. Given my previous Halloween post... you guessed it. We choose to be participants and enjoy the obsession with her while we could. 

She tuned the big 10 this year. I am not sure how many more theme parties she will allow this mom to host, but we decided if this was the last we would try and go out with a bang. She wanted a Harry Potter party and this is a little glimpse into our interpretation.

When the kids arrived, they were broken into houses using a sorting hat. Yes.. we got it to talk with the help of two cell phones (one tucked into the hat) and a quick footed Mik that made a quick getaway. Yes... we are nerdy enough that that the two of us practiced this before hand and he worked on his 'sorting hat voice'.

We held the party at the park. Because Mik insisted on having a full Tri Wizard Tournament and he needed the whole park to make this happen. The Pavilion was decorated using my old school hot glue and felt tricks. We had a table for each house. On the table was house flags for them to cheer on their houses, sashes (so we didn't forget who was in what house) and a house shield ring.

 The tournament was a huge success. Mik had it all planed out, kept a board with house times and we had the kids running, chasing and hunting things for quite a while. We wore them out... which I owed the parents since I fed them so much candy and sugar!

Before the kids got to it.

I was told I was off on the colors for potions. But she agreed not to tell anyone else.

 We also had a potion class. They got to pick what their magical potion did. We heard everything from '6 lives' to 'I can run through anything'. It was a huge mess... and a huge success in the fun category.

Then there was the Honey Dukes table. Maybe this is where I went overboard. Yes I did collect all those jars just for this (but I am reusing them and will show how in a future post). We had everything from Ice Mice to Acid Pops. This kids had a great time trying everything... and it was easy to pack them up a bad as a party favor.

The most important part was the Rae confirmed that we did reach 'epic level' party status. She has a memory and Mik and I got to be kids again while we schemed and planned the whole party togehter.

Rae got a Bertie Bott's Centipede flavored bean. Yuck!

 Here is to making memories and being a part of the adventure of their childhoods! 

Nikki

What is your favorite party memory? Mine was when I was 15. My mom planned a huge Halloween party for me. She even got my aunt to come and pretend to read our palms. I will never forget it. I guess those memories are what makes me want to create them for Rae. I just hope she has the same warm fuzzies when she is an adult and recalls her childhood.

A Year in Review - This Means Business

I can hardly believe that a year has passed since I walked out of my then job (with a few months’ notice and proper training of my replacement, of course) and started my venture of being a full time small business owner. I remember the call I made to my mom. It was her 25^th wedding anniversary so the date will always stay with me. I thought it was a perfect date to pick to be an anniversary of mine as well. I remember how proud she and my step dad were. She more then him, since she always loved entrepreneurship and he was pretty scared of the whole idea. All she said was 'I don't know why you waited so long'. Thanks mom, you never doubted me. 

It took me about 18 months to take the idea of even starting a business into one that enabled me to work full time at it. I could hardly believe I had done it, and truth be told I spent many hour wondering what I did and how I could possibly make this work. But I honestly believe that if you are doing something you love that you can find a way to make it work. Plus, I had been lucky enough to be surrounded by people that never doubted me.. well at least they put on a good face and kept cheering me on! 

Well a lot has happened in the last year! Here are few of my most memorable milestones! 

 Thank you to everyone that has ordered, followed me on facebook, came to a show or left me a encouraging comment. You all rock! I love you all and I appreicate every last one of you. 

Now to se some goals for the next year.. 

hmmmm.. 

Nikki